A student's view of rigor...what would you say?

I ran across this "yahoo question" from a student, posted a year ago.  I think many students feel this way, not just those in IB.  Trying to balance time in school, homework, a social life, extra activities (sports, clubs, etc), and family time is difficult for any student...or for a parent.  When my son was playing football this fall, it was a chore just to get to homework, much less finish it.  When his grades dipped a bit, we had to readjust.  Talking to him about time management, balancing priorities, and getting things done rather than doing it "in a minute" was more than a conversation.  It was a new way of looking at what he did, and how we supported him.  It wasn't easy, and we are still working with him to reinforce new study habits.  Taking time to notice and praise the positive efforts he's making, no matter how small has been a key component that is paying off for us.  Now, if I could only figure out how to get a 13 year old to actually do something in ONE MINUTE!!!!